Steps for Finley: Race helps couple honor daughter’s memory

first_img Part 1: Invisible, incapacitating concussions are sidelining high school athletes – July 19, 2016 Latest Posts Part 2: When the injury is inside your head, some “don’t get it” – July 26, 2016 Taylor VorthermsSports Editor at The Ellsworth AmericanTaylor Vortherms covers sports in Hancock County. The St. Louis, Missouri native recently graduated from the Missouri School of Journalism and joined The Ellsworth American in 2013. ELLSWORTH — Travis and Katelin Burpee were not prepared for the news they received on May 14 while having an ultrasound.Eight months into Katelin’s pregnancy, their baby’s heartbeat could not be found.“The doctor checked, then double-checked, then triple-checked,” Travis said. “There were no symptoms. It was totally unexpected.”Katelin gave birth to a stillborn 4-pound, 14-ounce girl named Finley Jayde Burpee. Finley died after a placental abruption — a condition in which the placenta separates from the wall of the uterus before labor.This is placeholder textThis is placeholder textThe Franklin couple, Katelin, 29, and Travis, 31 — both Jackson Laboratory employees — decided to honor Finley through a 5-kilometer race Sunday morning. They named it “Steps for Finley” for the steps their daughter would never get to take.Some 100 runners and walkers participated in the event, which began at the Moore Community Center. The race raised thousands of dollars that will go to supporting other families that have lost children through stillbirth or sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS).“We felt that, if we could celebrate Finley and share her with everybody, maybe it would help us cope,” Katelin said, looking down at their 3-year-old daughter, Jaylin. “I love them both the same.”Katelin and Travis also went through a miscarriage years ago, which Katelin said was a much different experience.“That was handled a lot differently because it happened earlier on,” Katelin said. “A lot of people don’t realize that when Finley passed away, we still had to have a funeral.”Stillbirth — which is a fetal death occurring after 20 weeks of pregnancy — is not uncommon. According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, approximately 24,000 stillbirths were reported in the United States in 2013.Still, the topic remains shrouded in silence.Travis Burpee and his 3-year-old daughter, Jaylin, smile at the Steps for Finley 5K on Sunday at the Moore Center. Travis and his wife, Katelin, organized the race in honor of their daughter, Finley, who was stillborn in May.“Often, people get offended by pictures and stuff like that. They don’t talk about it because it’s taboo,” Katelin said. “So families will withdraw and go into some kind of depression, or they’ll pretend their kid doesn’t exist.”A week after Finley’s death, Katelin and Travis decided they wanted to raise awareness to help other families like theirs feel less isolated.“A lot of people have this tragedy in their life,” Katelin said. “So we were like, ‘You know what? We’re going to throw a party so that we can celebrate Finley and anybody else who has lost a child.’”Katelin said she knew of many parents participating in the Steps for Finley 5K who have lost children in similar fashion but were not yet comfortable discussing it.“People just don’t talk about it because it’s too painful or they’re ashamed,” Katelin said. “I am fortunate because I have amazing support, but there are parents or single mothers out there who don’t have that.”Nonprofit organizations such as Empty Arms in Bangor can offer families that support.Hospice Volunteers of Hancock County Bereavement Services Coordinator Janice Ronco is working with an Empty Arms support group facilitator, Laurie Mouradian, to bring those programs to Ellsworth.Ronco said she began working with Mouradian after regularly receiving calls from parents scheduling appointments with her after a prenatal loss.“Then they’d decide they weren’t ready and cancel,” Ronco said. “Parents are suffering alone, and the pain is so great that they can’t bring themselves to come in.”Ronco said the loss doesn’t just fade away with time. It is felt during those milestones such as the child’s birthdays or when he or she would be entering school.“It’s a unique loss because so much of it involves the dreams and expectations of who that child would have become,” Ronco said. “Support groups or workshops can help validate that tremendous sense of loss and provide a forum for those challenges.”Proceeds from the Steps for Finley 5K will go to purchasing “memory boxes” for families who have lost children and a “cuddle cot” for a local hospital, which acts as a refrigerated bassinet, allowing stillborn babies to stay in the room with their parents.And while no one can prepare for the loss of a child, the Burpees want those families to know two things:“It’s nothing to be ashamed of,” Katelin says. “And you’re not alone.”center_img EHS names new boys’ soccer coach – July 13, 2016 Latest posts by Taylor Vortherms (see all) Biolast_img read more

Liverpool girls tennis gets points in loss to F-M

first_imgWhenever it came to facing the might of Fayetteville-Manlius, the Liverpool girls tennis team had a reason to carry modest expectations, since most of the time it wouldn’t get close to earning a point against the Hornets.That changed a bit in last Monday’s match, with the Warriors twice breaking through in doubles, the first points the Hornets allowed all season, a bit of a moral victory even though F-M still won all of the singles matches and prevailed 5-2.Gabby Underwood paired with Julia Schewe, and they routed the Hornets’ Alexis Ahn and Emma Zogg 7-5, 6-1. Olivia Magnarelli and Crystal Morgans made quite a comeback in a 2-6, 6-3, 6-3 win over Trisha Adavikolanu and Angela Iskander. Geiwitz and Gabby Underwood both lost in singles, but Angelica Underwood made quite a comeback after a rough start to defeat Paige Tromblee 1-6, 6-0, 6-4.Moving to doubles, Kozenyatko and Schewe paired up to beat Audrey Benton and Hannah Guild 6-4, 6-2, while Magnarelli and Morgans held off Reagan Doan and Ella Tromblee 6-4, 6-4. The teams of Polhamus-Wallingford  and Prusinowski-Sarah Watkins each lost in two sets.A 5-2 defeat to West Genesee followed on Thursday afternoon, with Geiwitz and Gabby Underwood pairing up to beat Alyssa Congel and Margaret Mello 6-3, 6-0, while Magnarelli and Morgans handled Katie Anson and Sophia Lowry 6-3, 6-2.But the Wildcats won every singles match, including a close battle that went to a third-set tie-breaker, Angelica Underwood falling to WG’s Angelina Llanos 4-6, 6-3, 7-6.At least Liverpool gained points against F-M – something that Cicero-North Syracuse could not do when it took it shot at the Hornets last Tuesday and fell to the Hornets 7-0.Cambrie Hibbard, in second singles, had an early lead on Iskander, but could not hold it in a 2-6, 6-3, 10-6 defeat. Krista Feeney did pick off a couple of games from Samhitha Adivikolanu in a 6-2, 6-2 loss.But C-NS did get into the win column Thursday, blanking Syracuse East 7-0. Feeney, Hibbard and Karly Williams each won singles matches, with the doubles teams of Sara Cartier-Olivia Cerio, Eve Campitello-Brooke Ten Brink, Angel Languaphay-Lauren Misco and Emily Pilz-Natalie Romano each winning in two sets.Share this:FacebookTwitterLinkedInRedditComment on this Story In the other doubles matches, Megan Polhamus and Kala Wallingford lost to Maya McKenzie and Camilla Wojtasiewicz 6-2, 6-0, with Sheridan Bryerton and Lea Prusinowski taking a 6-2, 6-4 defeat to Natalie Hugo and Brooke Tester.When Underwood took a turn in singles, she lost, 6-4, 6-0, to Phoebe Wang, with Diana Kozenyatko falling to Anna Manta 6-2, 6-2 and Kelly Geiwitz running into Samhitha Adavikolanu and having a 6-3, 6-0 loss.Liverpool had another chance to knock off a quality opponent when it faced Baldwinsville 24 hours later, but could not quite pull it off, taking a 4-3 defeat to the Bees.center_img Tags: C-NSgirls tennisliverpoollast_img read more