Steps for Finley: Race helps couple honor daughter’s memory

first_img Part 1: Invisible, incapacitating concussions are sidelining high school athletes – July 19, 2016 Latest Posts Part 2: When the injury is inside your head, some “don’t get it” – July 26, 2016 Taylor VorthermsSports Editor at The Ellsworth AmericanTaylor Vortherms covers sports in Hancock County. The St. Louis, Missouri native recently graduated from the Missouri School of Journalism and joined The Ellsworth American in 2013. ELLSWORTH — Travis and Katelin Burpee were not prepared for the news they received on May 14 while having an ultrasound.Eight months into Katelin’s pregnancy, their baby’s heartbeat could not be found.“The doctor checked, then double-checked, then triple-checked,” Travis said. “There were no symptoms. It was totally unexpected.”Katelin gave birth to a stillborn 4-pound, 14-ounce girl named Finley Jayde Burpee. Finley died after a placental abruption — a condition in which the placenta separates from the wall of the uterus before labor.This is placeholder textThis is placeholder textThe Franklin couple, Katelin, 29, and Travis, 31 — both Jackson Laboratory employees — decided to honor Finley through a 5-kilometer race Sunday morning. They named it “Steps for Finley” for the steps their daughter would never get to take.Some 100 runners and walkers participated in the event, which began at the Moore Community Center. The race raised thousands of dollars that will go to supporting other families that have lost children through stillbirth or sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS).“We felt that, if we could celebrate Finley and share her with everybody, maybe it would help us cope,” Katelin said, looking down at their 3-year-old daughter, Jaylin. “I love them both the same.”Katelin and Travis also went through a miscarriage years ago, which Katelin said was a much different experience.“That was handled a lot differently because it happened earlier on,” Katelin said. “A lot of people don’t realize that when Finley passed away, we still had to have a funeral.”Stillbirth — which is a fetal death occurring after 20 weeks of pregnancy — is not uncommon. According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, approximately 24,000 stillbirths were reported in the United States in 2013.Still, the topic remains shrouded in silence.Travis Burpee and his 3-year-old daughter, Jaylin, smile at the Steps for Finley 5K on Sunday at the Moore Center. Travis and his wife, Katelin, organized the race in honor of their daughter, Finley, who was stillborn in May.“Often, people get offended by pictures and stuff like that. They don’t talk about it because it’s taboo,” Katelin said. “So families will withdraw and go into some kind of depression, or they’ll pretend their kid doesn’t exist.”A week after Finley’s death, Katelin and Travis decided they wanted to raise awareness to help other families like theirs feel less isolated.“A lot of people have this tragedy in their life,” Katelin said. “So we were like, ‘You know what? We’re going to throw a party so that we can celebrate Finley and anybody else who has lost a child.’”Katelin said she knew of many parents participating in the Steps for Finley 5K who have lost children in similar fashion but were not yet comfortable discussing it.“People just don’t talk about it because it’s too painful or they’re ashamed,” Katelin said. “I am fortunate because I have amazing support, but there are parents or single mothers out there who don’t have that.”Nonprofit organizations such as Empty Arms in Bangor can offer families that support.Hospice Volunteers of Hancock County Bereavement Services Coordinator Janice Ronco is working with an Empty Arms support group facilitator, Laurie Mouradian, to bring those programs to Ellsworth.Ronco said she began working with Mouradian after regularly receiving calls from parents scheduling appointments with her after a prenatal loss.“Then they’d decide they weren’t ready and cancel,” Ronco said. “Parents are suffering alone, and the pain is so great that they can’t bring themselves to come in.”Ronco said the loss doesn’t just fade away with time. It is felt during those milestones such as the child’s birthdays or when he or she would be entering school.“It’s a unique loss because so much of it involves the dreams and expectations of who that child would have become,” Ronco said. “Support groups or workshops can help validate that tremendous sense of loss and provide a forum for those challenges.”Proceeds from the Steps for Finley 5K will go to purchasing “memory boxes” for families who have lost children and a “cuddle cot” for a local hospital, which acts as a refrigerated bassinet, allowing stillborn babies to stay in the room with their parents.And while no one can prepare for the loss of a child, the Burpees want those families to know two things:“It’s nothing to be ashamed of,” Katelin says. “And you’re not alone.”center_img EHS names new boys’ soccer coach – July 13, 2016 Latest posts by Taylor Vortherms (see all) Biolast_img read more

James Walter Reef, 69, Goddard: June 15, 1944- Feb. 27, 2014

first_imgJames W. ReefJames Walter Reef, age 69, of Goddard, KS, died Thursday morning, February 27, 2014 at Medicalodges of Goddard, KS.  He was a retired carpenter.James was born to James J. Reef and Ruby C. (Jewell) Reef on June 15, 1944 in Thayer, MO.James was married to Virginia Lee Kirkpatrick and to this union two daughters, Leda and Brenda, were born.James enjoyed spending time with his family and friends, fishing, and playing bingo and rummy.  He loved praising God by singing and playing his guitar and was a devoted Bible reader.He was preceded in death by his parents.He is survived by his two daughters, Leda Hinkle and her husband Mark and Brenda Wray and her fiancée J. D. Stewart, all of Wichita; four grandchildren, Kimberly Terhune and her husband Stephen of Conway Springs, Wesley Tate of Colorado, Jennifer Freel and her husband William of Wellington, and Anthony Schneider of Great Bend, KS; two great grandchildren, Jaiden Freel and Colten Terhune.Funeral Services will be held at Frank Funeral Home on Monday, March 3, 2014 at 3 p.m.  Pastor Max Davis will officiate.  Interment will follow the service at Prairie Lawn Cemetery.Visitation will be held at the funeral home on Sunday, March 2, 2014 from 1 to 8 p.m.Frank Funeral Home has been entrusted with the arrangements.To leave condolences or sign our guest book, please visit our website at www.frankfuneralhome.netlast_img read more

Judge orders restraints removed from Eldora Training School

first_imgELDORA — A federal judge says the Iowa Department of Human Services must stop using a physical restraint at the Boys State Training School in Eldora.The judge called the restraints a form of torture in a ruling on a case brought by former students at the facility who sued the state over the use of restraints and isolation, and a lack of mental health treatment. The judge is giving DHS 10 days to remove the restraint device called ‘the wrap.’The judge is allowing the use of solitary confinement, but only to stop residents from physically harming someone, not as a punishment.  And the department is required to submit a plan for how it will improve mental health services and must appoint a monitor to oversee the changes.last_img read more